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Memorial Service
2 pm Monday, October 13, 2014
St.Thomas Aquinas Chapel
Fredericton, NB E3B 9V7
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Patrick A. McCarthy posted a condolence
Thursday, October 23, 2014
Thank you for being you! Thank you for going "the extra mile" in everything you did! In fact, you lived life "to the FULLEST".
THANK YOU sincerely for giving me a chance to work with you "on the Submarine"; this experience has opened up a new world to me.
Prior to meeting you and ELP, I did not fathom such an environment existed.
Today, I am a better man.
Thank you
peacenlove
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Roy Male posted a condolence
Wednesday, October 15, 2014
My heartfelt condolences on the passing of Mary Murray. Her accomplishments are extraordinary; her passion and drive legendary. She has been such a life force and inspiration for so many near and far. I have many fond memories. "Wonderful!!" I cannot drink egg nog without thinking of her, a smile on my face. Thank you to Mary for making the world a better place, and for truly believing in people. Her legacy most certainly lives on.
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Sharon Jeffrey posted a condolence
Wednesday, October 15, 2014
I want to express my condolences on Mary's passing. She was a wonderful teacher who taught me back in the early 1960s at Simonds Regional High School. We have a lot of teachers during our school years but not all are rememberd. She was never forgotten.
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Tony Bucci posted a condolence
Tuesday, October 14, 2014
There are so many things that Mary taught me both personally and professionally, I can hardly remember them all. I think those that knew Mary will never forget her and all that she taught us, either directly or indirectly. I owe a lot of my professionalism as a teacher to Mary, as well as lifelong friends I have made through ELP.
I would like to say "Rest in Peace" to Mary, but we all know she is organizing everyone in a singsong and making sure everyone feels welcomed and comfortable and has someone with whom to connect and laugh. We also know that for Mary, this is peace.
Thank you, Mary Murray. It was an honour and pleasure knowing you.
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Mary-Helen McLeese posted a condolence
Tuesday, October 14, 2014
I spent some wonderful Moncton Wine Festivals with Mary & Jeff and will remember her laugh, positive nature and generosity. I will miss her, and am very lucky to have known her.
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Judith Potter posted a condolence
Tuesday, October 14, 2014
I was surprised and deeply saddened to hear of Mary's passing, as she was a force of nature that we expect would always be there. Her life's work indeed touched countless lives and we are grateful for having known her. Warmest hugs to you, Jeff, and to the ELP team
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Jim and Sheila Snow posted a condolence
Tuesday, October 14, 2014
So sorry to hear about Mary's passing. May all the memories help you thru this difficult time. Our prayers are with you Jeff.
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Kathy Pader posted a condolence
Monday, October 13, 2014
Teacher, you walk tall in my eyes …
It has taken me a little time to pull together my many and varied thoughts about Mary. We didn’t see each other terribly often, but whenever we did I was always delighted by the opportunity to catch up with her! With Mary, it didn’t matter how much time had passed - we talked as if we had just chatted the day before. Mary and I laughed a lot whenever we were together - sometimes we laughed so hard we were literally doubled over. I think of those times fondly and I am glad that I know Mary for so many other reasons. I worked at ELP a long time ago (pre-submarine years if you can imagine!) and Mary taught me a great deal about how to live well. Mary’s testimony is revealed by the integrity with which she lived her life: her genuine respect for others, her enthusiasm for living well, her generosity in friendship, her kindness, her inquisitive mind, her wisdom, and very importantly, her great sense of humour. I think of her often, and will continue to do so - her presence will never be far away.
Jeff, I am so very sorry for your loss and pray for your peace and comfort in the days ahead …
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Patrick Hurley posted a condolence
Monday, October 13, 2014
Mary was an amazing leader who influenced many young minds to the idea of service leadership. I will be forever grateful for the opportunity Mary gave me to work - and grow personally and professionally - on the wonderful ride that is the ELP Submarine.
My thoughts amd prayers go out her family.
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Dave Zinck posted a condolence
Sunday, October 12, 2014
I was deeply saddened to learn of Mary’s passing. I am another former member of the ELP submarine crew (1991-1996, 1999).
Being hired at ELP changed my life: I owe my closest friendships, my teaching career in ESL and even my family to my time in Fredericton. None of this would have happened for me otherwise. But more than that, everything I learned about myself and from Mary and ELP during those years shaped the kind of friend and teacher I am, and husband and father I try to be. I never could figure out how I got hired at ELP, but I am so glad it happened.
Thank you, Mary.
My heart and thoughts are with everyone in Fredericton.
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Larinda Meade posted a condolence
Sunday, October 12, 2014
For Mary from The Little Prince:" It is only with the heart that one can see rightly: what is essential is invisible to the eye." And you taught me to see.
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Judith Tompkins posted a condolence
Sunday, October 12, 2014
I spent 18 years at ELP working with Mary. They were 18 of the craziest, happiest, most frustrating, fulfilling, and exhausting years of my life. They were also years of the greatest growth, professional development and learning, and that is largely due to the energy and dedication of Mary Murray.
When I think of Mary, what first comes to mind is the nursery rhyme “Mary, Mary Quite Contrary”. Undoubtedly, that reference dates me.
Much can be said and has been said about Mary herself: her passion, her strength, her prodigious mind, her huge heart, her focus. She was a very complicated individual, a vibrant bundle of contradictions. Her determination and drive were counterbalanced by her child-like faith that with effort, anything is possible. She brought all those qualities and her sense of wonder together to create a magical, mystical place called ELP, and that is her legacy.
ELP was and is a place where people come to learn a language, but leave with so much more, a place where every small success is greeted with a WOW, where people are encouraged to step outside their own limitations and reach beyond themselves, a place of laughter, music and singing all in the name of communication, a place where it is safe to try because mistakes are embraced as stepping stones to learning, where you will always get support even when you don’t think you want it. Mary’s vision of ELP is a crucible where students and staff alike are transformed to become the best version of themselves because she always saw the potential in each individual.
Mary pushed herself harder than she pushed anyone else. Her brand of unrelenting energy took a physical toll, but she always lead by example, a radiant force of enthusiasm and sheer will, the sun that solar powered all of us in the pursuit of her vision. Thank you Mary for creating a place where people learn to fly. You were and are and always will be the wind beneath their wings.
My deepest condolences to her loving husband Jeff who will surely miss the daily presence of her light in his life.
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Clifford Skinner posted a condolence
Sunday, October 12, 2014
Simonds' magic as we knew it has left the building - Mary Murray, the person who always had a smile and an encouraging solution for everyday ups and downs. Today's halls of life seem filled with people's baggage and attitude. Mary was one of the few people that I was lucky to have known who could wade through both the baggage and the attitude and make all around her better. I was fortunate enough to have experienced this when some days life was just a dark corridor. I think we can sum up Mary's time with us with the quote NEVER MAD WORDS.
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Garth Paton/ Diane Potvin posted a condolence
Sunday, October 12, 2014
Dear Jeff,
Garth and I were saddened to read of Mary's passing. We offer our most sincere condolences on the difficult occasion.
Take of yourself.
Garth and Diane
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John Morris posted a condolence
Sunday, October 12, 2014
John Morris has sent this Expressions of Sympathy card.
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Stephen Sturgeon posted a condolence
Saturday, October 11, 2014
I first met Mary Murray in the spring of 1981. I had just completed (rather unsuccessfully) my first year of university in Moncton and a friend had mentioned this great opportunity to work at the university in Fredericton helping students learn English. Maureen Kelly, Patti Moore and I all thought we would be perfect for the job – we knew how to speak English and more importantly we could earn a bit of money and live away from home. For reasons I will never fully understand we actually got the job. The energy, and silliness that had made our first year of university so disastrous were actually embraced and encouraged at ELP. We worked hard and played even harder. We may even have shown up at the office a few mornings wearing the same clothes as the day before and reeling from the festivities of the previous evening. Mary knew all this. Mary knew everything. We were often more than a little afraid that one day we may go a bit too far, but Mary always forgave. She never forgot but she always forgave. Her forgiveness was as large as her personality. There was many a meeting where she expressed dissatisfaction with our behavior, but would smile her big toothy smile and encourage us to do better the next time. Patti and Maureen only lasted one summer, but I was hooked. I had found a place where I fit in and was encouraged to be exactly who I was for Mary saw something in me that no one had ever seen before. She saw potential. No one had ever told me that I could be a leader. No one seemed to care quite as much about how I was doing. After university I moved to the Yukon. Mary was always so interested in what I was doing and what I was learning. Every summer I would make the journey back from the Yukon. Every summer I told my parents I was going to Fredericton just for a few days to see friends, and every summer I ended up back working at ELP. I have never worked so hard or been quite so tired as during those summers. Every August I would say, “That’s it. I quit. I won’t do this ever again.” And every year I would return for more. The students and faculty of ELP became my family – my large, spontaneous, crazy, dysfunctional family and I loved it all.
As time went on, I started travelling elsewhere during the summer and I did not return to ELP, but the experiences I had and the relationships I made were never far away. I am who I am today because of ELP and especially Mary Murray.
I remember one staff meeting held very late at night when Mary asked us to respond to roll call with one word that described how we were feeling at that moment. I remember saying Teflon – because nothing was sticking any more. I have been trying to think of a suitable metaphor to describe Mary. She was a lighthouse – a radiant beam always helping me find my way home. She was a magnifying glass – helping people see things that others overlooked. Most importantly I think of her as a gardener- she may not have planted the seed, but her nurturing and care have helped me grow strong
For a long time I have missed Mary in my life. Now I miss her even more.
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Jennifer Longley posted a condolence
Saturday, October 11, 2014
Mary's father was a brother to my grandmother's brother-in-law so while we weren't "blood" relatives, Mary and her mother Helen were always spoken of as family. I moved to NS in the early 90's but still remember Mary well. My sincere condolences to you, Jeff, and to you, Alan Loughlin.
Jennifer (Palmer) Longley
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Judith Conway posted a condolence
Saturday, October 11, 2014
Though we were separated by time and distance, Mary has remained an important person in my life. I am a better person for having known her and am diminished by her death. Rest in Peace, Dear Mary.
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Shawna-Raye and Keith Endresen posted a condolence
Saturday, October 11, 2014
Dear Jeff,
We are very saddened to hear of Mary's passing. I know how together, you enjoyed life to the fullest. Appreciating each other for many wonderful years; what a blessing to have shared this time together.
Love, Shawna-Raye and Keith Endresen
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Gary dukeshire posted a condolence
Saturday, October 11, 2014
Somewhere, Mary is reading my previous message, shaking her head, and thinking "it's not antidote, it's anecdote." Sorry, Mary.
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Gary Dukeshire posted a condolence
Saturday, October 11, 2014
There are always a few people in your life that have an important influence on you, and Mary was one of those people for me. I worked at ELP from 1989-2000. I learned a lot about leadership, respect, and compassion from Mary. These lessons I carry forward with me in my life.
There are many antedotes about Mary that come to mind, but I will share just two:
My first year of ELP, during the Fundy trip, I was in the basement having fun with a bunch of students. Mary came down and asked to see me for a moment. I thought I was done. Mary told me I was doing a great job and thanked me for seeing that the downstairs was covered with staff. That's Mary, seeing past the surface and appreciating what was important.
The second antedote is reapplying after my first year of ELP. I sent in my letter and Mary herself called. Only, I wasn't home. When I got home, my incredulous roommate informed me that "some crazy lady" had called saying the the "submarine hatch was open, and I could jump through this summer."
I am a much better person having known Mary. Rest in peace. Roxanne and my thoughts are with Jeff and the family.
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Jim Corbett posted a condolence
Saturday, October 11, 2014
My condolences to the family and friends. Mary was a wonderful lady. I worked with her at UNB English Language Programme for a while in the late 1980s and early 1990s.
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Tara McDonald posted a condolence
Friday, October 10, 2014
Thank you Mary. Thank you.
Thank you for everything you gave and everything you inspired in us. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Mary was a phenomenal employer and leader. She was dedicated and dynamic. She taught respect and nurtured brilliant and focused enthusiasm. She said that we didn't have to like everyone we worked with or served, but we HAD to respect them. She cultivated a staff to work with that I not only respected, but cherished and loved. And, somewhere in this world, someone is singing "You Are My Sunshine" knowing that everything that came with this song brought an extra level of depth and richness to their lives. I was so very, very, very blessed to work at ELP.
Jeff, I send a big heartfelt hug to you. To everyone currently on staff delivering 110% to the current module, I send you my prayers.
To everyone else close to Mary, I also send you my condolences.
Thanks again Mary. You were a gift - and I am sure you will continue to be felt in our hearts and our lives.
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Donna Milazzo posted a condolence
Friday, October 10, 2014
I feel so fortunate to have spent 2 years with Mary at Sisson Hall in Potsdam. She touched everyone who knew her and our world will not be the same without her. Rest in peace, dear MMM. Jeff, I send warm hugs to you and wish you peace and comfort in these difficult days.
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David Lounsbury posted a condolence
Friday, October 10, 2014
I will always remember Mary for her passion, not just her passion for teaching and ESL but her passion for birding, wine tasting, debating with respect, politics, music, ... passion in everything she did. She inspired those around her to strive for excellence.
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Lauren Rogers posted a condolence
Friday, October 10, 2014
Dear Jeff,
I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart and thoughts go out to you during this difficult time. Sincerely, Lauren
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Alan Loughlin posted a condolence
Friday, October 10, 2014
Dear Mary, I am so saddened with your passing, but at the same time I am so thankful to have had you as part of my life, now I shall look forward until we meet again, much love, cousin Alan.
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Vann Delorey posted a condolence
Friday, October 10, 2014
I was saddened to hear of Mary's passing. Though I only knew her briefly in the mid 80's her influence on me was profound and life changing. I would not be where I am or who I am today if I had not met her. She was an inspiring woman and mentor to many I am sure. She made this world a better place. My sincerest sympathies. Vann
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Heidi Ciarlo (Hawkins) posted a condolence
Friday, October 10, 2014
It is with great sadness that I say goodbye to Mary, but it is with pure joy that I delight in having known her. When I first met her in 1988, I was in awe of, and sometimes a bit overwhelmed by her passion. I worked at ELP from every summer from 1988 until 1996. Those years shaped me personally, and professionally. I remember her saying "A classroom without a laugh, is not a class, but an ordeal", a quote that I have held dear. Rest in peace, Mary.
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Angela Boyko posted a condolence
Friday, October 10, 2014
From our first one on one time when she interviewed me to join the crew, Mary encouraged me to follow my dreams. I have many special memories of her support and that big bright beautiful smile.
She was a force of nature and guided her crew with a steady and caring hand. She touched many lives and I can only imagine she is leading one heck of a celestial singalong now.
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Michelle Parker posted a condolence
Thursday, October 9, 2014
Thank-you, Mary, for my place in the submarine(starting in 1988) Thank-you for giving me a chance and for your support over the years. You taught me many lessons but the one that I hold dear will always be your message about seeing beyond the obvious. That sometimes it is what people don't say that can tell you more than what they do say. I understand my students better because of that.....and more importantly I know myself more....thank-you.
GUIDING SPIRIT
" Unknown and ever flowing
Upon our conscious mind,
An ever present entity that
To all of us-belongs.
In past we're all connected
Diverse branches on a mighty tree.
Like sap we give energy that
produces and makes it breathe.
We rise above tbe nutured earth
growing taller, one by one.
Lifted by your Spirit, up, to the
Warmth of the Sun ".
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Krista Houlahan Hicks posted a condolence
Thursday, October 9, 2014
Mary was a very special lady with big ideas and an even bigger heart. Her creativity, energy and enthusiasm were inspiring and awesome in the true sense. As a former member of the UNB English Language Programme submarine, I salute you, Captain!
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Claudette Seems posted a condolence
Thursday, October 9, 2014
Mary's contribution to the teaching of ESL was HUGE. Her positive attitude and uplifting spirit was inspiring. Her laughter was from the heart.An awesome powerful woman who regularly gave positive feedback to staff. She will be missed.
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Mary Doucette posted a condolence
Thursday, October 9, 2014
I am so sad that the fire of a wonderful life has been extinguished. Mary was a friend and such a source of inspiration in a variety of important ways. We will all miss her.
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